It is Okay to be a Realist

Realism and darkness are two qualities that a lot of artists possess, and it can be seen not just in their work, but also in their everyday life. I think I’m one of them. I like to call it as it is. But this is “bad,” according to some people. Society is obsessed with positivity (in a weird way) because, obviously and understandably, it makes the human spirit feel good. However, for the unrealistic “positive thinkers,” anyone who ever dares to bring up reality is immediately labeled as “negative.” I understand that reality sometimes sucks, but it doesn’t mean we should ignore it. We live in it and if anyone thinks it’s not worth the thought, they’re living in denial. Just because anger isn’t pleasant, are we supposed to not ever express that human emotion? We can challenge it all we want, but it’ll be inevitable.

And calling things for what they are does not make a person a “negative nancy.”

That is exactly the problem with a lot of people (like Hollywood superstars); they’re missing a drop of reality in their lives. They are the kind of people to whom shit happens and then they wonder what went wrong or how it was possible. Go figure…

People want to feel optimistic about things. I want that, too. But it’s also okay to anticipate different outcomes and possibilities. It’s okay to prepare our minds and hearts for possible undesirable results.

If the outcome of something is positive — awesome! If it’s negative, you’re not too disappointed in the end either. This philosophy has worked for me all my life, so why divert now.

Again, I think positivity is great; it’s the “floating on clouds and rainbows while riding unicorns, and looking down on people who think differently” way of thinking of some people that drives me a bit crazy — and it makes me wonder why it is that people credit unrealistic positivity more than realistic reality. Being a realist is okay, people. Life isn’t composed of just one type of feeling. It is not about one thing; it’s a million different things.

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