22 Lessons I Learned from Heartbreak
- I’ve learned that anyone you care about can crush you into pieces.
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I’ve learned that heartbreak doesn’t always have a sad face.
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I’ve learned that “it’ll pass” or “man up” / “woman up” won’t help the healing process.
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I’ve learned that society believes in rebounds and expects you to erase years of fond memories in a one night.
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I’ve learned that some people, particularly the heartbreakers, can move on really fast.
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I’ve learned that no matter how many articles you read about “what not to do when you’re heartbroken”, you’ll do it anyway.
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I’ve learned that you can look right into the heartbreakers’ eye with a brave face and effortlessly act like everything is fine, fine, fine.
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I’ve learned that nights have never been longer than when you have a broken heart.
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I’ve learned that someone didn’t have to be in your life 24/7 for them to wound you like that.
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I’ve learned that everything suddenly reminds you of them and it adds to the misery.
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I’ve learned that you’re so vulnerable you’re willing to forgive their flaws…after they’re gone.
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I’ve learned that heartbreak messes with your head like nothing ever would.
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I’ve learned that it is a dangerous state of mind to be in.
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I’ve learned it is then when you need to be your strongest self.
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I’ve learned that, if you thought you were “not the jealous type” in the past, now you’ll know you were wrong.
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I’ve learned that it’s not as easy anymore to brush off rejection, that hell really hath no fury like a woman scorned.
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I’ve learned that sometimes you just can’t f**king move on quick enough.
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I’ve learned that you need moral support, but also a lot of time alone.
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I’ve learned that creativity and inspiration ignite; and I’ve learned that it’s f**ked up that you’re hurting and inspired to write all at once, and you have the urge to tell the world a word of wisdom to live by.
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I’ve learned that the healing process can take a while, but it will nevertheless happen in due time.
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I’ve learned that heartbreak activates your fight-or-flight; that walls go up to protect your heart. But since you’re a survivor by nature, you find the way to make it out of the dark.
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What I’m saying is that heartbreak is the worst of all pains; that you can’t put a bandaid on it, like a physical injury, and carry on; that it is inevitable for all mortals; that it is almost destructible, but always, always, always healable.
And what’s important to remember is that it’ll pass. No, really, forget what I said — it WILL pass. (After all, the priest in Fleabag was right.)