The Real Ones
It hurts to admit when a friendship has run its course. But it hurts more to keep holding on. It’s been said over and over again, but the truth is it does. You keep feeding your expectations just to end up disappointed once again.
There’s nothing quite as complicated as interpersonal relationships. It is said that we, humans, are the most intelligent species on this planet, but I remain skeptical. How can you explain the fact that some humans consciously destroy everything they “love”? And, what goes on in that brain of theirs at that point?
It’s true that we all f–ck up. Some things are hard to rationalize, especially when love is involved. But just because we all make mistakes doesn’t mean you have to stand by some clumsy callous person, making excuses for them for the rest of your life.
Nobody but you can decide when the time to detach is right. A good rule of thumb, though, to know when it’s time to stop making that friendship or relationship happen, or stay in course, is weighing up the pros and cons.
Do they bring anything to the table (as in more than one thing)? Do they reciprocate your energy, your vibrations, your good intentions? Do they bring you joy? What, exactly, is their role in your life? Or is the only common ground between you two now the memories you built together?
That part right there is so hard to let go of. I have questions myself: does one ever move past the memories? I sure as hell still don’t know.
Don’t give up on a real thing,” they say. But by logic, I think, if memories (in other words, the past) is the only thing keeping you by their side — when clearly the respect has been lost, the love is questionable, and you can’t put them at the top of your “real ones” list — perhaps…this is the time when you put them aside.
You don’t need to get rid of those people if they’ve done nothing wrong, if they’re a part of your life in some way. But maybe you should reconsider the place they deserve in your life and your heart.
