One day, you learn that life is just going to have a lot of inevitable turns. Then, it’ll take another day for you to accept that reality. Yet, another day comes when you realize that, after all, you’re as unprepared as you were before any of those turns happened, to anchor yourself. To expect, to…
Once I close that notebook and force the fat messy sharpie down the spiral binding, my brain understands that the day is over. And it rejoices. It is, indeed, a good feeling knowing you finished one or two tasks, when you’ve been so “ADD.” Even when knowing you’ll have to do it all over again tomorrow,…
It hurts to admit when a friendship has run its course. But it hurts more to keep holding on. It’s been said over and over again, but the truth is it does. You keep feeding your expectations just to end up disappointed once again. There’s nothing quite as complicated as interpersonal relationships. It is said…
Maybe it has something to do with getting older or maybe it doesn’t. But lately, I’ve been thinking about the purpose of life a lot. Call it existential crisis, a product of aging, or whatever, but it has hit me. I’ve been wondering why some people take life so darn seriously. With all the contradictions…
There has never been a more monumental time in our lifetime to honor self-care than the time we’re living in right now. A few years back, there was no hashtag for it, meaning the concept wasn’t even popular. (Imagine the excuses people used just for a mental escape!) There was not a lot of talk…
It’s a warm Friday afternoon and, before everyone at work storms out the door and never look back—well, not for the next two days—they’re all telling you about their Friday night plans. You, a lone soul still navigating your way through a mad city; a city full of people too fake to inspire you to…
When you want to punish yourself for poor decisions you made, before you knew they were bad, give yourself a break. Remember that there was a moment in time when you thought it was right. And even if you always knew it was wrong, but continued to go on because, after all, it was your…
I’ve learned that anyone you care about can crush you into pieces. I’ve learned that heartbreak doesn’t always have a sad face. I’ve learned that “it’ll pass” or “man up” / “woman up” won’t help the healing process. I’ve learned that society believes in rebounds and expects you to erase years of fond memories in…
This is kind of a follow-up to Don’t Hit the Brakes! – which I posted last year (last month, to be less dramatic). It’s just that I can’t get enough of the raw reality that is to be an author, or an artist who wants to sell. I’ll post the words again: You start writing…
“May your walls come down for the right one” is a mantra of my own that I sometimes recite to friends who find it hard to open up to new relationships. But in reality, it’s a line born out of my own hesitations and my continuous struggle with letting my guard down. In my history,…
The year was…doesn’t matter. I just remember it was cold and lonely in a lively city that was supposed to be warmer than what I was used to. I asked the few new friends I’d made if they knew of any shelter looking for volunteers for Thanksgiving. Once I realized I was asking the wrong…
There’s a corner in our brain where all of our darkest thoughts and ill-wishing hang out until they sense it’s the “right time” to come out. But that time is never timely; it is when we feel weaker and most vulnerable that these insecurities and uncertainties threaten to take over us. And sometimes, they succeed….